Let’s get into it. But first we bring God into it. He’s truly who get’s us through it.

Romans 8:28

28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

We all have purpose.

Sis, your worth it.. focus.

Bro you’re worth it… act like you know it.

The Power of Choice.

I’ve lived, loved, and learned so much over the past few years. I had some good days and terrible ones. But the beauty of ebbs and flows is that you can grow, glow, and bloom into a better, stronger, and more self-aware version of you. You become resilient, more determined and you learn to love and treat yourself the way you want others to love and treat you.

I’m such a giver and in my experience… givers typically attract takers. So, learning how to pick people who reciprocate your energy, wants and needs is essential. Balance is needed in any relationship, friendship… hell we all need balance in life in general.

Choose Yourself

There’s power in choosing things and people that make us feel good. We’re no longer choosing less than people and things. We now choose things that fill our soul, body and mind, over temporary thrills, and people. So, starting here and now. If you weren’t choosing you. You can start choosing yourself today and put a middle finger up to anyone that doesn’t choose you. We don’t need them taking up any more space in our lives.

The givers are now giving to themselves and taking back their power.

Doing The Work

Doing the work will look different for everyone.

Ask yourself these questions:

How did I end up here?

Am I repeating the same pattern?

Do I feel whole and complete regardless of who’s in or out of my life?

Was it really love or a toxic attachment?

Have I truly prioritized my self-care and mental health?

Do I have abandonment issues that cause me to cling to people and situations that aren’t good for me?

Am I loveable if I’m not loving myself properly?

Have I been tending to my body and mind properly?

Have I spoken to God and asked him for guidance?

It’s time to let go of everything holding you back.

The things that must be addressed start with being honest with yourself. Once that’s done. You can proceed to becoming stronger mentally, physically, and spiritually. It’s okay to hit the reset button. Life is full of lessons. When people say the best relationship, you will ever have is with yourself. I believe that to be very true. Self-love opens so many possibilities.

You become stronger, confident, self-aware, self-assured, and fearless. Knowing your worth is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world. Knowing that once you love and prioritize yourself and are living in your most authentic form is when God will bring the right things and the best people for your highest good is another.

This will help renew your faith in all areas. The results of doing the work are so worth it!

Things to say and do that can help on your journey to choosing you.

Journal.

Workout.

Meditate.

Affirm yourself.

Set new goals.

Do things that make you happy.

Isolate whenever you need to.

Listen to music that makes you feel good.

Cry, laugh, smile but most importantly live.

Last year I walked away from an on again off again relationship. Which was the best decision I could’ve made for me. I told him to come pick up his things. I changed my locks and blocked him on social media. I even changed my phone number, and he showed up at my door after I did all those things lol. But my stance was still the same.

I don’t want anyone or anything around me that’s not good for my mental health and that’s toxic. I’ve felt so much more at peace with that in and out, hot, and cold energy out of my life. People don’t value or appreciate you until you take yourself, your love and energy away.

I’m no longer on his roster of women. My anxiety is no longer through the roof. I no longer have to wonder where me and someone stand or if they are going to continue to run back and forth between me and their ex and ex flings. I have found peace in my life, in my heart and with the choice to end that toxic cycle.

I feel sorry for the women who haven’t found the strength to do what I did. But what I learned from dating him is that no matter how good you are as a woman. No matter how much you love or help someone. If they are at war with themselves inside nothing you do will ever be enough.

If they listen to their intrusive thoughts more than their heart you are more than likely wasting your time. Or if they value quick thrills or money over real love and, connections you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. In my experience impulsive people are hard to build with. My anxiety won’t allow me to do it again lol.

But guess what guys… I’m dating someone. I’m having a ball. It’s scary, exciting, fun, healing, and something I didn’t see coming. It’s been great! He’s older, very persistent, sweet, thoughtful, consistent, smart, and passionate. It feels good… He feels safe.

Not safe as in settling, but safe as in it’s okay to let my guard down. I’ve dated a few people but revisiting this person (whose an old love interests) was a good decision. We both left the past in the past and came into this with new and good energy.

Endings Bring New Beginnings

I have a song that I want you guys to listen to. The meanings of songs can be versatile. The love she’s singing about can be for a person or the love you need to give to yourself. She is such a dope artist. Check it out!

The time is now people. It’s time to heal the past and accept it for what it is. We cannot get yesterday back. But there’s always tomorrow. Tomorrow can change your life if you can change your mindset. We aren’t victims… we are warriors. Let’s give our battles to the lord and leave them there. Trust that he will guide us right we’re we need to be. Hopefully, this post and my story inspires someone to choose themselves.

Remember that you are strong, courageous, and deserving of good things!

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