Loving, Losing and Learning
During a session with my therapist last week. I realized that a big part of my struggles in romantic connections are due to my abandonment issues. I was able to self diagnose and my therapist confirmed this. My task for my next session was to dig deep within me to figure out where my abandonment [...]
Being the mother of a 14 year old is by far a blessing and scary. In three years she will be leaving home and as her mom it's my job to prepare her for the world. I think more than anything I fear failing her. My question to those of you with daughters is what [...]
Runaway Love Author: J'Lee He entered my life but I refused to let him into my heart. Too hurt, too broken from the men before. But there was something in his eyes from the moment we met. They were enchanting... he was enticing and I wanted him so bad. But I wasn't quite ready to [...]
Author: J'Lee He feels like a tidal wave of pleasure and pain. Our ups and downs leave me in shambles and chains. Tied by our souls... we're whole when we're together. I hate him... then I love him.... yet I cannot forget him. He kissed my lips and touched my soul. His absence makes me [...]
I'm sure we've all either heard or learned from previous experience that going from friends to lovers is not always wise. I wouldn't suggest it just based off the couple times that I did it. Enter at your own risk. It could grow into something beautiful and loving or a beautiful nightmare. It really depends [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I7PLRXy8VxE He didn't choose me... and I didn't chase him. Photo by nappy on Pexels.com Nothing hurts more than feeling rejected or led on. I remember the goofy shit I would do when I was younger. Like blow someone's phone up. Send a bunch of text messages or stalk their myspace page. Hell I would [...]
https://youtu.be/de_T1kioTs0 Ever since Gary Chapman came out with his book The 5 love languages: The secret to love that lasts. It's been showing up every where and many of us have been curious about this topic. It's definietly an eye opener and a relationship saver. Most of us learned the love language our parents displayed [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ff2cl3_00BQ&t=6s I've been single for a year and a half and hunny the mistakes I've made and seen other women make inspired this post. It's time to get real and honest. If you want to cut out on wasted time and disappointments then listen up. https://media.giphy.com/media/3gXYoM8RoUYefG5Osr/giphy.gif I think it's pretty common for women to be [...]
Smiles hide your pretty lies. Pride hides your scars. Beautiful eyes full of beautiful lies. Who would even know? That there's hidden beauty and magic that lies within your soul. Beautiful seductress who uses sexuality to get her way. Beautiful lonely girl when it's over and they choose not to stay. Beautiful broken girl who [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0V2uV6xXH4 While listening to Jazmine Sullivan's new EP Heaux Tales. I came across the video above. I can relate to it and I'm sure a lot of woman can relate as well. I've definitely used my beauty, femininity and sexuality to my advantage at times. Some people might say Leesh you're beautiful... I would've never [...]
Today I took a mental health day. I truly dislike days like this!!! But I understand that the sun isn't going to shine everyday. I know that it's perfectly okay if I need a moment to rest, relax and rejuvenate. Not long ago I told my therapist how much I hate my depressed days. I [...]
Do We Really Need Closure To Move On? Let's talk about it! People come into your life and sometimes they leave just as quick as they came in. Relationships end.. friendships end and the effects of that can be hard to deal with. Especially when people exit your life and the reason is unknown. Those [...]
Author: J’Lee My soul was weary, my faith had lapsed. There was nowhere to run. There was no going back. I looked to the sky contemplating.... When? and How? Regardless I decided I was gonna make it. The leap of faith I was gonna take it. I cried out to God with tears in my [...]
Author: J'Lee Here I am a complete mystery. Complicated yet full of so much symplicity. A courageous, outgoing woman with so much dignity. Versatility to transform into whomever I wanna be. Willing to do any and everything as long as it's what's best for me. Walking away from anything that no longer serves me. Happy, [...]
The Effects Low Self Esteem Can Have On A Relationship Photo by Jasmine Carter on Pexels.com Having a partner that suffers from low self esteem can cause major issues in a relationship. Ladies have you ever dated or been in a relationship with a man that was possessive, jealous or insecure? I've experienced this in [...]
Sex Ain't Better Than Love Photo by Dainis Graveris on Pexels.com But since sex has gotten easier to get, love has gotten harder to find. Some would disagree with the statement above. But I stand on my views on this topic and I'll explain. Who doesn't love sex? Nothing compares to the feeling you get [...]
New Year, New Goals, New Body, New Anthem, New Love I welcome it all. 2021 Photo by Breakingpic on Pexels.com Every year everyone's screaming "new year, new me." Making new year resolutions and not sticking to them. But in 2021 let's start the trend of actually accomplishing our goals and sticking to our resolutions. If [...]
Could The Reason You're Still Single Be Because You're To Masculine? Photo by Godisable Jacob on Pexels.com Since we were little girls we were taught to cross our legs, use proper ediquette, wear dresses and to be lady like. Many of us imitated what we saw our moms and grandmothers do. I was that little [...]
This particular blog post was inspired by a session I had with my therapist. During this session she discussed DBT with me and made me aware that I was successfully using my wise mind. So, I decided to share this information with you guys. DBT ( Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is a tool used to show [...]
Author: J'Lee Ever since I met you you've become my everything. I promise to love and cherish you each and every day. You've had my back on some of my toughest days. There's not enough hours, seconds or minutes in a day. To explain how much you really mean to me. Your strength, your smile, [...]
